What is Self-Care about?
Self-Care (or even self-love, but I’m not a fan of that term for my own, possibly, weird reasons) – You see it everywhere online, Facebook Mums groups, Instagram hashtags, health and wellbeing promoters, but what does it really mean???
Well if you google the term you get
care of the self without medical or other professional consultation.
That definition is a bit narrow, and self-care, by my way of thinking, can involve medical or professional consultation. My definition, is making the time and effort to ensure your own wellbeing, which may or may not involve medical or professional consultation.
Why Do We Need Self-care?
The way I see it, in order to really live your life WITH your family and friends, you need to be healthy and strong, both physically and mentally. We all have different needs when it comes to how we achieve health and wellbeing. Until we start to self-care and make sure we are in top shape, we are not going to be really LIVING with our families. We will simply exist and to some extent watch from the sidelines.
You’re not alone
In the last few months I have realised that I need more self-care. I was focused on the parts of my life that were not going to my plan. The more I focused on those things, the less happy I was, the less motivated I was, the less forward movement I made.
While I tried not to show it, I am not that good at concealing frustration and fatigue, so I have no doubt my kids and husband were affected by it. I couldn’t see past all the things I “needed” to do. Keep the house tidy, cook good healthy meals, and manage our finances. I knew I wanted get my body back into shape and alignment (so I felt like it was physically working with me and not against me), eat better and exercise more so I could think clearer and actually get more done. I just hadn’t worked out how to fit it in.
I have found many groups of women online, supporting each other and talking about self-care. It’s not just me trying to work out how to do this while keeping all the balls in the air. Women all over the world from all walks of life are realising what they need and trying to get what they need.
So here are some simple ideas for self-care that I do, that you may find easy to do:
- Go for walks, on your own or with your kids
- Give your self a facial or foot soak/pedicure
You can do this at home. There are plenty of recipes online for facials and foot soaks. Do it at night after the kids go to bed, even just once a week. Carve out 15 – 20 mins where you feel like you are putting some effort and thought into yourself. Plus you may even notice you skin is better afterwards – bonus!
- Stretch before bed for a better nights sleep
- Prepare healthy tasty breakfasts and lunches for yourself
Try to do both! I love the solitude of walking alone, but I also walking with one my kids (if I take them all at once it goes a bit pear shaped), as I get some “quiet” time with them and we talk and I am really able to LISTEN and my son loves that!
Stretching helps relieve muscular tension that builds up through the day and helps improve blood flow to the muscles. Some slow deep breathing while you stretch will also help your body relax. There are some good stretches listed in my evening stretched post.
I think we all know the benefits of eating healthier, but its often easier said than done. Breakfast and lunch for me needs to be juggled with getting kids ready for school and work. I work from home most of the time, it seems to take more discipline to eat healthy at home, than at when working at an office or maybe it’s just me.
I (try) to plan for these meals, so I can have variety I want and get the balance I need. Look for tasty options that contain protein, vegies, some healthy fats and carbs. Colour in your vegies is good for making your plate look interesting and even more appetising.
Think about snacks too, especially if you’re at work — unconscious snacking can be easily done when distracted or especially if bored. If you plan ahead you are more likely to be successful in eating healthier, even if it is just one out of 3 meals a day, a little improvement is better than none! Have a look at my Fuel Yourself post for some good fuel sources and ideas.
Why not give some a try, remember a few small changes add up…